Your invitation to authenticity and wholeness.

Hello, my name is Tom, thank you for stopping by.

It takes courage to explore your support options and try something new.

For over fifteen years I have supported humans to heal, grow stronger and courageously reach for their personal and health goals and longings.

Based in the UK, I support humans worldwide via zoom. My CI sessions are informed by therapeutic modalities such as IFS, Somatic Experiencing, Family Constellations and polyvagal theory alongside my qualifications in Sports Science, Personal Training, Nutrition, Breathwork and more.

I view my life as an ever changing work in progress, I live in a state of ‘becoming’ as I continue to study, learn and integrate teachings into my own daily life. My own life has been deeply touched by Compassionate Inquiry and it is a true honour to witness my clients reconnecting, transforming and embracing their own lives.

My intention, first and foremost, is to provide a safe space where you feel held with kindness so you can explore and connect with those parts of you that are longing to heal, relax, unwind and thrive.   

Rest assured you don’t need to know the answers, together we can explore your questions, doubts, fears and dreams. 

All healing comes from connection and together we will welcome every colour and shade of your life. I will invite you to get in touch with and welcome anything that wants to come to the surface so you are free to express, ask and embrace a life of dynamic aliveness and all it means to be human.

I offer a safe and sacred space for you to be seen, heard and held. I will support you to discover your own truth and create a definition of what an authentic life is for you. During your session I will support you to unearth clarity to gain insight around your needs, allowing you to say an authentic Yes or No in ways that nourish and support you.  

As you live the seasons of life I am here to be a safe presence, holding you in possibility as you make friends with all the facets of your experiences.

It can be scary to ask for help, know that every part of you is valid and invited here.

If you feel a calling, reach out, it will be my honour to help you discover your own truth and happiness.

“The way Out is In” ~ Zen Proverb

What is Compassionate Inquiry?

Compassionate Inquiry (CI) is a gentle and transformative trauma informed approach that supports us to develop a compassionate relationship with ourselves, leading to greater self-awareness, emotional well-being, and the ability to live more authentic and meaningful lives. CI helps to heal and transform the sources of our pain and suffering with kindness and understanding by releasing unresolved emotions, suppressed feelings and underlying beliefs that we have stored in our bodies. Compassionate inquiry is a beautiful way to bring healing and positive change into our lives. When we approach ourselves and others with curiosity, empathy, and kindness, amazing things happen.

How is Compassionate Inquiry different from other types of therapy?

Compassionate Inquiry not only focuses on intellectual understanding of our experiences but also acknowledges and honours the interconnectedness of the mind, body, and emotions.

Rather than solely treating or managing symptoms, CI uncovers the root causes of pain and suffering, supporting healing through embodied awareness and processing.

Compassionate Inquiry helps us to recognise and rewrite the limiting beliefs that we created about ourselves and the world during difficult and vulnerable times. CI unearths the wisdom of our coping styles, transforming outdated behaviours into authentic, supportive and conscious choices, empowering us to discover our truth.

Who can benefit from compassionate inquiry therapy sessions?

Compassionate Inquiry is beneficial for individuals who are seeking a deeper understanding of themselves, their relationships, and their patterns of behaviour. It is also helpful for those who struggle with emotional issues, such as anxiety, depression, trauma, and addiction.

Compassionate Inquiry can help with a variety of challenges, including:

  1. Emotional pain and suffering: Compassionate Inquiry offers a supportive and empathetic space to explore and heal deep-rooted emotional wounds.
  2. Recovery from trauma: CI assists individuals in navigating and resolving traumatic experiences, promoting healing and growth.
  3. Reconnection with your True Self: CI helps individuals uncover and transform limiting beliefs and self-critical thoughts, promoting self-acceptance and self-empowerment.
  4. Addictions and compulsive behaviours: Compassionate Inquiry assists in exploring the root causes of addictive patterns, promoting understanding and facilitating recovery.
  5. Spiritual exploration and growth: CI provides a space for individuals to explore existential questions and deepen their spiritual connection, facilitating personal transformation.
  6. Stress and anxiety: Compassionate Inquiry equips individuals with tools to understand and alleviate stress and anxiety, cultivating a greater sense of calm and well-being.
  7. Shame and guilt: CI offers a non-judgmental space to explore and understand the roots of shame and guilt, fostering self-compassion, supporting healing and transformation of these challenging emotions.
  8. Plant medicine integration: Compassionate Inquiry provides a compassionate and exploratory space to process and understand the insights, emotions, and experiences that arose during the journey, helping individuals integrate and apply the wisdom gained into their daily lives for transformative growth and healing.
  9. Relationship difficulties: CI provides insights into relationship patterns and dynamics, fostering healthier and authentic connections and communication.
  10. Depression and mood disorders: Compassionate Inquiry supports individuals in uncovering underlying causes of depression, offering strategies for emotional healing and resilience.
  11. Life transitions and personal growth: CI offers guidance and support during major life changes, helping individuals navigate transitions and discover new possibilities for personal growth.
  12. Body image and self-acceptance: Compassionate Inquiry helps individuals develop a healthier relationship with their bodies, fostering self-compassion and body acceptance.

Compassionate Inquiry offers safe and sacred space for you to be seen, heard and held. This invaluable support can address a multitude of other problems and challenges, providing a transformative space for healing, growth, self-discovery and a deeper connection with ourselves and the world around us.

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
~ C.G. Jung

Below you will find the professional framework I work within:

> The Offering:

Together we will explore your questions, doubts, fears and dreams, creating a safe space for you to be seen, heard and held. During your session you will unearth clarity and gain insight around your needs, so you can create a life that nourishes and supports you. 

> Investment: 

My current exchange is £90 (GBP) for a 60 minute session. It is important that this work is sustainable for both of us so please note it is not possible to lower my rate.

> Cancelation policy: 

At least 48 business hours notice is required for any changes or full payment is required. 


“Awareness is like the sun.
When it shines on things, they are transformed.”
~ Thich Nhat Hanh

Client Testimonials

Tom’s presence is the safest I have known within a therapeutic environment. He is sincere, honest, encouraging and kind, yet not afraid to challenge me when I am limiting myself. 

His support and presence has allowed me to deepen my own self love and compassion, connect with peace, and become brave enough to invite more joy into my life. I wish everyone on the planet could have a ‘Tom’ to support their healing journey. 

Kate M Foster

Author, Therapist and Yoga Teacher, Australia

Working with Tomasz has been nothing short of life-changing. For years, I carried the weight of childhood trauma without fully realizing how deeply it was affecting every part of my life. Tomasz created a space where I felt truly safe, seen, and understood. Through his compassionate guidance, he helped me uncover and release deeply buried emotions and long-held wounds that I never thought I could face.

What truly sets Tomasz apart is his incredible ability to gently guide you to the root of your pain and help you integrate those fractured parts of yourself with care and respect. Because of his work, I’ve not only begun to heal my inner child, but I’ve also experienced profound shifts in how I relate to myself and to those I love. I feel more whole, more connected, and more alive than I have in decades.

If you are ready to do deep, transformative healing, I cannot recommend Tomasz highly enough. He is a gifted therapist and a true healer.

L.J.

United Kingdom

Working with Tom has been a truly healing experience. His presence, deep attunement, non-judgment, and genuine curiosity have guided me toward expanding my awareness of defenses and coping strategies I once believed I had already processed. Through his support, I have discovered new ways to nurture myself beyond our sessions. This journey has allowed me to cultivate a more compassionate relationship with myself and those around me, ultimately leading me to a place where I can confidently say I am engaging with life in a much healthier, more fulfilling way.

Natalie Romuzga

Belgium

A year ago, when I started doing personal sessions with Tom I didn’t expect what I was gonna confront. Despite the fact that I had already been doing intense inner exploration for myself for 3 years, with Tom I just went deeper. He was a friend, a father, a mother, a guard or a brother every time we explored my childhood. Every session with him I felt safe to go there and this is weird as I am a person or I was a person who is afraid of men and doesn’t trust them. With Tom every session is a safe space for me to go anywhere I want at that moment. Without rush, with a lot of respect and compassion, my inner self feels safe to communicate and show us my traumas from the past. His compassion and his ability to understand me completely has given me the power to explore myself more. However, the biggest asset I earned from our sessions was something else. Tom taught me to do this exploration and this communication with myself even when we don’t have a session, even when I am alone with myself! Every Time I need Tom, his voice or his presence is there now compassionately beside me helping me explore myself and giving compassion to myself, whether we have a session or not!

Please keep doing this amazing job you do, this compassion approach and understanding you give to all of us. We need you and I mostly I would say that I need you, at least for a little longer.

Thanks for every session we have done till now and I celebrate the upcoming one.

Ioannis P.

Greece

As a somatic and developmental trauma practitioner, continuing my own inner work is essential. To show up fully and with integrity for my clients, I must first be able to meet myself in the same way. Tomasz is the practitioner I trust to guide and support me through that ongoing journey.

His presence is steady, intuitive, and deeply attuned. Every session with Tomasz is unique, and he always meets me exactly where I am — which allows me to feel truly seen, safe, and supported. That safety has made it possible for me to explore and move through layers I couldn’t have accessed alone.

Each session is deeply impactful in its own way. The changes I experience through our work together are tangible and lasting, and I always come away with more clarity, ease, and connection to myself.

Tomasz is a true healer — grounded, gifted, and clearly meant to do this work. I’m incredibly grateful to walk this path with him and will continue to turn to him as a trusted guide in my own healing.

Tess McMechan

Dear Tom,

I can not thank you enough for the love you have shown me. I start each session feeling apprehensive about what might come up, and each time I am blown away by the discoveries I unearth and the incredible parts of myself that I meet. You hold a safe, kind and non-judgemental container for me to bring all of myself, which is an amazing thing since we have only ever met on a screen. Compassionate inquiry could not be more aptly named and parts work (IFS) feels to me like a deep cathartic cry whilst being held in a safe, warm embrace. Since we have started working together I notice that I am able to speak my truth more authentically, I know what I need with clarity, and I uphold gentle yet firm boundaries with those around me. I rarely get triggered anymore and I am able to respond compassionately and from my highest self. (Unless I’m driving – maybe there’s something to look at there!) The compassion and love that you bring to each session is transformational, and it has allowed me to sink deeper into love, reminding me of the path home to the wisdom of my own heart.

With love and deep gratitude, 

Nadia S.

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“Ultimately, your gift to the world is being who you are. It is both your gift and your fulfillment.” ~ A. H. Almaas